I am so sick and fucking tired of people using the terms “hetero-normative” or “cisgendered” as though they were dirty words.
I love my body and my body looks good in skirts. My body looks good in high-heeled shoes and V-neck blouses and tight pencil skirts. I love my long hair and I love wearing it up and down and curling it and straightening it and playing with it. I love my breasts and my legs and my stomach and my neck and my face, which has a pretty little mouth and nice big eyes and a pointy Jewish nose. I wear makeup when I feel like it, and I don’t wear makeup when I don’t feel like it.
I see no reason to hate my body because it falls into the hetero-normative category of “feminine” or “sexy.” Stop trying to make me feel like a spoiled, privilege-denying bitch for being born this way. You were born the way you were and you love your body. I was born the way I was and I love my body.
I like men. I like the way they taste and smell and look and sound and feel. I like their different types and sizes, fat and thin and short and tall and brawny and scrawny, and the way they talk and the way they move. I like the way they talk to me and move with me, on me, around me. I like the way they make me feel, and I like the way I make them feel. I can find a woman’s body aesthetically pleasing or admire her hair or her makeup or her outfit or even her body and still not have the least desire to do anything more than give her a hug.
I am, after much consideration and even a little experimentation, straight. I am not ashamed of my attraction to men, and I am not embarrassed that they find me attractive. I don’t care who you fall in love with, I don’t care what your adult and consensual sexual antics are. Stop trying to make me feel like a closed-minded, homophobic person for not being interested in women. I respect your right to live your life the way you want. Respect my right to live my life the way I want.
I am a feminist. I support marriage equality, and I support a person’s right to choose whether they want to get married or not. I support women in combat positions in the US Army, and I support paternity leave. I support a person’s right to identify themselves however they wish, as he or she or hir or whatever that person may choose. I support the fight against size-ism, age-ism, class-ism, sexism, racism, homophobia, and hatred and oppression in all their forms.
So stop trying to make me feel guilty for not being you. It’s my choice to dress and act the way I want, in a way that makes me feel comfortable, just as it’s your choice to do the same.
I am on your side. I am fighting for you. I am fighting with you. Don’t condemn me for “falling for their lies” or “doing what everybody else does.” I’m a self-aware human being. I assume you are, too. I have made my choice. I am a straight, feminine, woman. That does not make me your enemy.
Please, for your sake and my sake and the sake of future generations, stop treating my lifestyle as toxic. Stop condemning my choices as impinging on your rights as a human.
And fuck you for trying to make me feel the way they make you feel.
(eta: In the morning I’ll probably regret posting this but right now it feels damn good to get it off my chest.)